Supporting Others

The Mature King helps people get stronger, not more dependent on him. He puts his energy into building other people's abilities so they can handle their own lives. He's not creating followers who need him—he's growing people who can stand on their own. That's what real providing looks like.

The Tyrant "supports" others only when it serves his interests and creates obligation. The Victim supports compulsively, rescuing people from consequences and preventing their growth. The Mature King supports in ways that build strength and capability.

Effective support requires:

Seeing potential: The King looks at someone and sees who they could become, not just who they are right now. He spots the gifts people haven't claimed yet.

Believing: The King has faith in people's ability to grow and develop. His belief in them helps them believe in themselves.

Providing resources: The King offers what people need to develop—training, tools, time, connections, feedback.

Creating space: The King gives people room to try, fail, and learn. He doesn't hover or rescue them from every difficulty.

Challenging: The King pushes people beyond their comfort zones. Growth requires challenge.

Celebrating: The King acknowledges progress and achievement. He helps people see how far they've come. He praises and encourages them.

Support and rescue are not the same thing. The King doesn't do for people what they can handle themselves. He gives them what they need to figure it out and get better at it on their own.

The difference between support and codependency matters. True support builds strength and independence. The King asks: "Am I helping this person grow, or am I keeping them needy?"

When support is done right, the King ends up surrounded by capable people who pull their own weight and give back more than they take.