Supporting Others

The Mature King supports others in developing their own capabilities and achieving their goals. His support empowers rather than creates dependency—he helps people become capable rather than keeping them needy. This is provision at its highest level.

The Tyrant "supports" others only when it serves his interests and creates obligation. The Victim supports compulsively, rescuing people from consequences and preventing their growth. The Mature King supports in ways that build strength and capability.

Effective support requires:

Seeing potential: The King recognizes what people are capable of becoming, not what they are now. He sees their gifts and possibilities.

Believing: The King has faith in people's ability to grow and develop. His belief in them helps them believe in themselves.

Providing resources: The King offers what people need to develop—training, tools, time, connections, feedback.

Creating space: The King gives people room to try, fail, and learn. He doesn't hover or rescue them from every difficulty.

Challenging: The King pushes people beyond their comfort zones. He knows that growth requires challenge.

Celebrating: The King acknowledges progress and achievement. He helps people see how far they've come.

Supporting others is different from rescuing them. The King doesn't do for people what they can do for themselves. He provides what they need to solve their own problems and develop their own capabilities.

The difference between support and codependency matters. True support builds strength and independence. The King asks: "Am I helping this person grow, or am I keeping them needy?"

This kind of support creates a realm of capable, confident people who can contribute rather than consume.