Co-Honoring

The King practices co-honoring. He looks at another person and sees someone who owns their own life. They look back and see the same thing in him. That mutual recognition makes both of them more solid.

The Tyrant demands honor but never returns it. He expects people to bow while giving them nothing back. The relationship turns into servitude—all one direction, no real respect. The Victim believes he deserves honor but has no idea how to give it or let it in. The Mature King gives honor freely and receives it without flinching. He knows who he is, and he sees who you are.

Co-honoring requires:

Seeing Sovereignty: The King recognizes the authority others have over their own lives. He sees them as rulers of their own realm with their own power and right to choose.

Claiming Our Own: The King knows his worth. He doesn't shrink or apologize for his power. He stands in his sovereignty without arrogance or apology.

Reciprocity: Honor must flow both ways. One-way honor creates tyranny or servitude. Co-honoring creates partnership.

Honoring Difference: The King respects sovereignty even when he disagrees. He doesn't need others to be like him or share his views.

Addressing Disrespect: When honor breaks down, the King speaks. He doesn't tolerate disrespect, but he addresses it without becoming tyrant.

Co-honoring changes everything about how people relate to each other. Partners stop competing and start standing side by side, each strong in their own right. Work teams become places where every voice actually gets heard. Families become households where even the youngest member has dignity.

The King who co-honors sets the tone for everyone around him. People in his presence start carrying themselves differently. They step into their own authority because he treated it as real. Something about being respected by a man like that makes people want to live up to it.