Healing Self and Others

The Mature Magician is a healer. Healing isn't about fixing what's broken or making the pain stop. It's about finding what's whole underneath the wounds. It's always been there. He does this work on himself first, and what he learns there is what he brings to others.

The Manipulator uses the appearance of healing to control others. He performs healing without doing it. The Dummy doesn't believe healing is possible. He stays wounded and hopeless. The Mature Magician heals through presence and skill.

Healing self and others requires:

Facing our own wounds: The Magician does his own inner work. He doesn't avoid his pain or project it onto others.

Developing therapeutic skills: The Magician learns the art and science of healing. He studies, practices, and refines his craft.

Holding space for pain: The Magician can be present with others' suffering without needing to fix or flee.

Trusting the process: The Magician trusts that healing happens in its own time. He doesn't force or rush it.

Knowing the territory: The wounded healer is the most powerful healer. The Magician knows the territory from the inside.

Channeling healing energy: The Magician doesn't heal by being clever. He lets something move through him that's bigger than his ego. He gets out of the way.

Healing is a matter of time, but sometimes also of opportunity. The Magician creates opportunities for healing—for himself and for others.

The greatest healing force is still friendship and love. The Magician who has done his own healing becomes someone people feel safe around. What hurt him most is now the thing that helps others. His pain becomes his gift, not because pain is good, but because he didn't waste it.

The Magician takes what he suffered through and turns it into something useful for someone else walking the same road.